A Muslim home is a place where family members can relate to one another and where they sincerely enjoy being together. Where they have a sense of shared beliefs and values, and their behaviour is based on Islâmic principles. It is also a place where family members are protected, happy and kind to one another. The home should not just be a place where people eat and sleep. The home is the place where families spend most of their time together, worship together and have a sense of belonging. The Muslim home is that which is based on the commands of Allâh, in which there is mutual love and in which one finds comfort and rest. Today, very few Muslim homes possess these beautiful characteristics.
In recent times there has been a marked increase in the following 1) separation and divorce 2) teenage problems 3) disagreements, tension and conflict among married couples and family members 4) the rate of depression, particularly among wives 5) wilful neglect of aged parents. The main reasons for these problems are that we have left the teachings of Allâh and His Rasûl and we have begun to adopt and imitate the culture and ways of others. The dajjali fitnahs (like the media, western education, etc.) portray a life of pleasures for those who will follow their path. However those who jump into this lifestyle will find misery, depression and a life of woes and internal agitation. At the same time, they portray a life of misery and hell for those who will adopt any other path. Those whose îmân is strong and have conviction that only in the way of Rasûlullâh Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam is complete success will fling themselves into this path and they will find peace, contentment, inner satisfaction and a life of paradise in this worldly life. Rasûlullâh Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam has so beautifully stated, “The example of you and me is of a man who lights a fire. Moths and other insects begin falling into it, whilst he is trying to drive them away. I am holding firm onto your waists trying to save you from the fire whereas you are slipping from my hands.”
It is of great importance to rid our homes of those things that teach us and our families disrespect, immorality, shamelessness and the evil character of the disbelievers like television, music, evil literature, novels, etc. and to restrict the use of the internet and cell-phone. Ta’lîm should be daily done in our homes. There is a section dealing with fulfilling of the rights of others in Fadhâ’il-e-Sadaqât. By ta’lîm, anwârât (light) will permeate our homes and the darkness of evil will be repelled. Hereunder are some verses of the Qur’ân and Ahâdîth emphasising the importance of fostering good family relations, without which a home is a spectacle of hell.