To gain the maximum from one’s fast, one should try to gain perfection in one’s fast. whilst
Imam Ghazali Rahimahullaah writes, “As for the quality of fasts, they are also of 3 types:
1. To suffice with abstaining from eating, drinking, and fulfilling sexual desires. However, one does not prevent his limbs from engaging in sin. This is the fast of the general masses. This type of fasting is restricted to name only.
2. Together with abstaining from the above, one prevents one’s limbs from any action contrary to the laws of Islam. Thus one controls his tongue from backbiting, his eyes from looking at strange women, and controls all the other limbs as well.
3. Together with the above, to protect the heart from evil thoughts and evil whisperings and keep the heart occupied with Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo only. This is the level of perfection. This is the fast of the elite. Since every person cannot attain such perfection, the least one can do is break one’s fast with halaal and pure food in which there is no doubt whatsoever and abstain from filling the stomach to the point where lustful desires are increased, which will result in the benefit of the fast being lost.
This will lead to laziness and the inability to wake up for Tahajjud. At times one might miss Fajr salaah as well. One should abstain from eating so much at the time of iftaar that it covers up for the food missed during the day.” (Arbaeen)
Hadrat Shaikh Rahimahullaah has written in Fadhail-Ramadhaan,
“Abu Ubaidah RadhiAllaahu Anhu reports, “I have heard Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam saying, “Fasting is a protective shield for Man, as long as he does not tear up that protection.”
“Protective shield” here means just as a man protects himself with a shield, similarly fasting protects him from his well-known enemy - 'Shaytaan'.
In other Ahaadith, we are told that fasting saves one from Allaah's punishment and Hellfire in the Hereafter. Once somebody inquired from Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam, “What causes the fast to be ripped?” He replied, “Telling lies and backbiting.”
This Hadith, when read in conjunction with so many others, actually tells us to avoid such actions which cause fasting to be wasted. In our times, we are fond of whiling away the time with unnecessary conversations.
Some Ulema are of the opinion that lies, backbiting, slander, etc., actually undo the fast just like eating and drinking, but the great majority of Ulama believe that the fast is not totally undone, but loses its blessings.
The Ulama of Islam have mentioned six things, about which care should be taken in fasting:-
First, one should keep the eyes away from any place where one should not look; some go so far as to prohibit looking at one's own wife with desire, let alone another woman. Similarly, looking at any evil action or where evil is committed should be avoided. Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “The glance is like an arrow from ‘Shaitaan.’ Whosoever, out of fear for Allaah, prevents himself from looking at evil, Allaah shall grant him such light of faith, the taste and ecstasy of which he will feel in the heart.” The 'Sufis' interpret the above saying to mean that those sights which should be avoided include all such places and things that distract the mind from the remembrance of Allaah.
Secondly, one should guard the tongue against lies, unnecessary conversation, backbiting, arguments, swearing, etc. In Bukhaari, we read that fasting is a shield for the fasting person; for this reason, those who fast should avoid all useless talk, joking, argument, etc. Should anyone pick an argument, then say, “I am fasting.” In other words, one should not start an argument and if someone else starts it, then too, one should avoid taking it up. When the person who starts an argument is not an understanding person, then at least one should remind oneself that, “I am fasting.”
During the time of our Nabi SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam, two women were fasting and suffered the pangs of hunger to such an extent that the fast became unbearable and both were on the point of death. The Sahaabah RadhiAllaahu Anhum brought this to the notice of our Nabi SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam, who sent a bowl commanding them to vomit into it. When they both vomited in the bowl, pieces of meat and fresh blood were found in it. The Sahaabah were greatly surprised, upon which our Nabi SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “They fasted with 'Halaal' food from Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo, but partook of 'Haraam' food by backbiting other people.”
From the above, it also becomes clear that, by backbiting during fasting, the fast becomes so much harder; for this reason, both women were near death. Similar is the case with other sinful acts, and experience shows that for the faithful, God-fearing persons, fasting is no hardship, whereas the sinful find it too hard to bear. One should therefore stay away from sins and especially from major sins, like backbiting and slander, which are often indulged in to while away the time. Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo says in the Qur’aan that backbiting is tantamount to the (actual) eating of the flesh of one's dead brother. We find this also narrated in various Ahaadeeth.
Once Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam, on seeing some people, asked them to pick their teeth. They said that they had not tasted any meat that day, on which Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “So and so person’s flesh is sticking to your teeth.” It transpired that they had been backbiting. May Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo keep us safe from this evil, because we are very neglectful of this warning!
All are guilty of this; not to speak of the common man, even the people of importance indulge in it, even the religious people in their gatherings do not avoid backbiting. Worst of all is the fact that we do not even realize what backbiting is; even when we suspect ourselves of this, we try to cover it up as narration of some event.
One of the Sahaabah inquired from Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam, “What is backbiting?” Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam replied, “To mention something about your brother behind his back, which he would resent.” The Sahaabi then said, "And is it still backbiting if the thing mentioned about him is really true?” Our Nabi SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “In that case (if that which was mentioned is really true) it is precisely backbiting; but if what is mentioned is false, then you have in fact slandered him.”
Once Nabi SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam passed by two graves. He said, “On both the inmates of these graves, punishment is being inflicted in the grave. One is being punished because of backbiting, the other because of not having taken precautions (to stay clean) when passing urine.”
Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam also said, “There are more than seventy degrees of evil in (Usury) interest. The lowest form of it is comparable to committing incest with own mother; and taking one Dirham of interest is a worse evil than having fornicated thirty five times. The worst and most evil degree of taking interest is the slandering of a Muslim.”
In various Ahaadith we are strongly warned against backbiting and slandering a Muslim. I very much wanted to write down here a number of such Ahaadith, because all our gatherings and conversations are generally filled with these evils (backbiting and slander). However I finally decided not to do so, because the topic under discussion here is something else - not actually backbiting. So I once again pray that Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo may keep us safe from this evil. And I beg of my friends and brothers to pray for me too; we are full of inner faults.
Thirdly, we should be careful that the ears are kept away from listening to anything undesirable (Makrooh). It is equally unlawful to listen to anything that should not be said. Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam has said, “In backbiting, both the backbiter and the one who listens to it are equal partners in sin.” (Note: Included in this is listening to music and futile speech –compiler.)
Fourthly, the rest of the body should be kept away from sin and unlawful things. Neither should the hands touch it nor the feet walk towards it. With the stomach, special care should be taken, especially at the time of iftaar, that no such thing enters it about which there is any doubt of it being Halaal. When a person fasts and, at Iftaar time, breaks his fast with Haraam food, he is like a sick person who takes medicine as a cure, but also adds a little poison, which destroys him.
Fifthly, after having fasted, it is not advisable to fill the stomach completely even with Halaal food at Iftaar, because then the purpose of fasting is defeated. Fasting seeks to diminish one's carnal desires and increase one's faith and spiritual powers. For eleven months, we eat and drink freely enough, in Ramadhan this should be cut down to a minimum. We have a bad habit of filling our bellies at Iftaar to make up for what was lost, and again at Sehri in preparation for the day, thus actually increasing our average consumption. Ramadhan for such people gives an edge to their appetite. Many such items of food are eaten that we normally do not eat at other times. This type of eating habit is completely against the spirit of Ramadhan and the true spirit of fasting.
Imaam Ghazaali Rahimahullaah asks the same question, “When the object of fasting is to conquer our carnal passions in opposition to Iblees (Satan), how can this possibly be done by eating excessively at Iftaar? Actually in that case we have only altered the times of eating, and not really fasted. In fact by having various types of delicacies, we consume even more than in normal times. The result is that, instead of lessening the carnal desires, these are considerably increased. The real benefit of fasting comes as a result of actual hunger in the true sense. Our Nabi SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “Shataan flows through the body of man like blood; so, close up his path by remaining hunqry,” i.e. when the body is hungry, the spirit receives strength.
Apart from hunger, fasting gives us an opportunity to appreciate the condition of the poor and destitute, and thus engenders sympathetic feelings towards them. This too can be attained by remaining hungry and not by filling the stomach with delicious foods at Sehri, so that one does not feel hungry until Iftaar. Once a person went to Bishr Haafi, whom he found shivering in the cold, in spite of having warm clothes lying at his side. That person inquired, “Is this a time for taking off the clothes?” Bishr replied, "There are numerous poor and needy ones; I am unable to sympathise with them; the least I could do is to be in their condition.” The Sufis plead for the same attitude in fasting and so do the Fuqahaa (Jurists).
In Maraqiul Falaah, it is written, “Do not eat excessively at ‘Sehri’, as this is a way to lose the object of fasting." Allaamah Tahtaawi Rahimahullaah writes, "When hunger is really felt, the reward for fasting becomes definitely more. Similarly, a feeling is developed for the poor and hungry ones".
Our Nabi SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam himself said, “Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo does not dislike the filling of anything to the brim more than He dislikes the filling of the stomach.” On another occasion, Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “A few morsels should suffice which can keep back straight.” The best way for man is that one third should be filled with food, one third with drink while the other third remains empty. Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam himself used to fast for days on end, without eating in between.
I have seen my ustaaz (teacher) Maulana Khalil Ahmad eating only slightly more than one thin (hand-made) bread (roti) at 'Iftaar' and 'Sehri', during the whole month of Ramadhan. When any of his near ones used to urge him to eat more, he would reply, “I am not hungry. I merely sat down to eat because of my friends.”
About Maulana Shah Abdurraheem Rajpuri, I have heard that in Ramadhan, for days on end, he used to fast, drinking at Iftaar and Sehri, only a few cups of tea without milk and nothing else. Once his most trusted follower (and Khalifa) Maulana Shah Abdul-Qaadir remarked with anxiety, “Hazrat, you will become very weak if you do not eat anything.”
To this, Maulana Shah Rajpuri Rahimahullaah replied, “Praise be to Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo, I am experiencing something of the ecstasy of Jannah.”
May Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo grant us all the ability to follow those pious souls. Aameen.
The sixth point is that, after fasting, one should always have some anxiety as to whether one's fast had been accepted by Allaah or not. This should be the case with all forms of 'Ibaadah' (worship). One never knows whether some important part may have been left out, of which no notice was taken. One should always fear that Allaah may reject one's deeds.
Rasulullaah SalAllaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “Many reciters of the Qur'an are being cursed by the Qur’aan.” He also said, “On the day of Qiyaamah, (judgement) one of those with whom Allaah shall reckon first shall be a “Shaheed” (martyr in the path of Allaah). Allaah shall call him and remind him of all His favours to him, which he shall admit.”
He shall then be asked, “What have you done by way of expressing gratitude for these favours?” The martyr shall reply, “I fought in Your cause till I became a Shaheed.”
Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo shall reply, “It is not so; you fought so that you can be called a brave man; and so it has been said.”
Thereafter, it shall be commanded that he be dragged face on the ground and cast into Jahannam.
Thereafter, an Aalim (Scholar) shall be called. He too shall be reminded of Allaah's favours and asked the same question. He shall reply, “O Lord! I sought to acquire knowledge, taught others and for Your sake recited the Qur'aan."
Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo shall say, “This is not true. You did all that, merely so that, it may be said that you are learned; and so, it has been said.”
Then it shall be commanded that he too be dragged, face on the ground, and cast into Jahannam.
Thereafter a rich man shall be called. After being reminded of Allaah's favours, and admitting them, in reply to Allaah's question as to what he did to express His gratitude, he shall reply, "There was no worthy cause wherein I did not spend in charity for Your sake.”
Allaah's reply shall be, “Not true. You did all that, so that it may be said that you are very generous. And so it has been said.”
Then it shall be commanded that he too be dragged, face on the ground, and cast into Jahannam.
Many such incidents are related in Ahaadith. So, a fasting person should not only be sincere but also hope that Allaah will accept it.
These above mentioned six things are compulsory for all truly righteous persons.
As for the exceptionally pious ones, a seventh point is added. That is, during fasting, the heart should not be turned towards anyone except Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo, so much so that during the course of the fast there should be no worry as to whether there shall be something to eat for 'Iftaar'.
Some Shaikhs even consider it a fault to think about food for 'Iftaar', or that one should endeavour to acquire something, because this shows lack of faith in Allaah's promise of being responsible for the granting of "Rizq".
In the commentary of 'Ihya Ulumid Deen, the author goes so far as to relate that, should something for Iftaar arrive from somewhere before the time of Iftaar, the Mashaayikh would give it to somebody else, for fear that for the rest of that day the heart may be distracted from Allaah Jalla Jalaalahoo by keeping it.
This can of course, only be carried out by the exceptionally pious ones. We cannot even imagine having such strong faith. Should we try to follow without it, we may destroy ourselves.
The Qur'aan commands: "Fasting has been prescribed for you." The commentators of the Qur'aan say that from this verse it is deduced that fasting is made compulsory for every part of the body. Thus, fasting of the tongue means to avoid falsehood, etc. fasting of the ears means not listening to evil, fasting of the eyes means not to look at any form of evil and sin.
Similarly, fasting of the self means to be free from all carnal desires. Fasting of the heart means casting out from it the love of worldly things. Fasting of the mind means avoiding thoughts about anything other than Allaah.
(Extracted from Fadhail-A’maal)